ribenacreep1 asked:
Hi there, just wanted some opinons on something.
I am soon to graduate University and so will be returning to live at home, hopefully sign with an agency and do some part time work. Since I’ve been home recently I have been taking care of the dog. The dog we have at the moment was meant to be my dog, but my parents seem to see her as their dog now. She sleeps on their bed, goes on holiday with them, yet I am doing all the walking because I don’t want my dad to be stuck having to walk her every night. However, I would love to have my own dog. If I need to go away they can look after my dog, but the rest of the time I will walk both. Obviously the dog will be mine so they will not take it away with them, and if I move out it will come with me. My mum works part time so most of the time someone will be in with the dogs. Do you think I should get a rescue dog or do you think it will want to sleep on my parents bed and be with them like the other dog does now?
There’s no point trying to get the dog we have already to become my dog, my mum totally adores it. I just want a dog that is MY dog, instead of running off with them and pining when they go out. I feel like i’m doing all the work of having my own dog, but not the affection of my own dog in return
Hi there, just wanted some opinons on something.
I am soon to graduate University and so will be returning to live at home, hopefully sign with an agency and do some part time work. Since I’ve been home recently I have been taking care of the dog. The dog we have at the moment was meant to be my dog, but my parents seem to see her as their dog now. She sleeps on their bed, goes on holiday with them, yet I am doing all the walking because I don’t want my dad to be stuck having to walk her every night. However, I would love to have my own dog. If I need to go away they can look after my dog, but the rest of the time I will walk both. Obviously the dog will be mine so they will not take it away with them, and if I move out it will come with me. My mum works part time so most of the time someone will be in with the dogs. Do you think I should get a rescue dog or do you think it will want to sleep on my parents bed and be with them like the other dog does now?
There’s no point trying to get the dog we have already to become my dog, my mum totally adores it. I just want a dog that is MY dog, instead of running off with them and pining when they go out. I feel like i’m doing all the work of having my own dog, but not the affection of my own dog in return
If you haven’t been living at home, then the dog has gravitated towards your parents as his/her caregivers.
Once you are home and spending more time with the dog, he/she may start sleeping with you.
Another dog may want to be where the first dog is and not sleep where you want.
You can’t predict who a dog’s going to bond with. But any dog I’ve known has bonded most closely to the person who does most with it – walking, training, playing, grooming. If you devote the time to your dog, more than just a walk a day, there’s no reason to think it won’t be YOUR dog.
that all depends on the time you spen with the dog. if you put in time and feed him or her. they will love you and sleep with you, but if you are away then it will not do those things with you
I think you should wait to get your own dog when you have your own place to live. Any dog brought in now would fall into the same situation as the first dog and would follow your parents as its leader since they are the pack leaders.
i know how you feel i had that problem
the way i solved it was getting a dog and having it as mine
just pay more attention to your rescue dog and then the dog will start becoming closer because of your kindness
but be slow because it might have gone through a lot from it’s past.
don’t force the dog to like you when it turns away to do something else let it
don’t smother it too much because then it will get annoyed and move on to someone else
good luck
The dog you had was supposed to be your dog, and you went away to university and left her behind. When you come home from university how do you know that you will be able to stay in the same area to get work? You may have to move away, which will mean you will need to live in rented accomodation. The chances of you being able to keep a dog there are remote, and what will happen to it whilst you are out at work all day? Or would you just dump the second dog on your parents as well?
No, don’t get a dog until you have a job and can afford a house of your own, and are able to not leave it alone all day. Think of the dog’s needs before your own desire to have one. If you really want to be around dogs get a saturday job at your local pet shelter.
I think you should wait till you are settled in your own place.
That way there is no competition for affection. My dogs all love my husband the best because he sits in the same spot for hours and they all pile on top of him.
You can volunteer at the shelter and work with dogs in the meantime!
It all depends how much you will be home or how much you can take the dog with you. We had a family dog the always slept in the hall and then when I got engaged to my now husband he had his own apartment and I still lived with my parents (we believe you should be married to live together) and we got a dog together from our local shelter. He lived with my husband at first but was more attached to me since I work from home and would go to his apartment to work. They changed their rules at the apartments that dogs could visit but could not live there. So I had to start taking the dog home with me to my parents house at night. The dog (Dakota) would go every where with me and was in my room at night with the door closed. He did bond with my parents but not like he did with me. Unless I had to go somewhere and my parents were okay with puppy sitting him he would go with me. So he always has seen me (and my husband) as his maters. He does enjoy going to grandma and grandpas house though for visits but I had no problem when we moved in together with him adjusting. If you decide to get another dog and you want it to be your dog then you need to be the one taking total responsibility for it. You need to take it every where with you and when you cant take it ask your parents if they will watch it. But you should be the one feeding, walking, bathing, paying for the vet bills and so on. Good luck!
wait till you get your own place getting a rescue is a good idea but make sure you have the time to give it all it needs
I don’t see the problem in you getting a dog.
However in order to prevent the current situation, choose the dog yourself, do ALL the training your self, you have to be the one who feeds it and show the dog that you are the pack leader. That way the dog will be more your dog.
At present I have two dogs that are mine and pay little interest in my other family members despite the fact my mum is the one who feeds them, the reason for this is because I was the one who did all the training with them and made myself the leader between the three of us. So when you have acquiredd the dog join a training class and possibly agility as a way of bonding.
Good luck
I don’t see why not, as long as you spend time with him/her so she/he will like you more go for it
glad to see someone rescuing a dog
Good luck !